Weeknight versus Weekend

In this post I will discuss the difference between a weeknight and weekend dates and the pros and cons of both.  

First of all, weeknight dates are short and cute.  It allows both parties to move on and reflect about the date; thoughts of time spent will linger into the work place for feedback the next day.  Again, this will set the tone and allow for conscious decision making going forward and develop pride.  You should be proud of your date and excited to share the experience with others.  We all appreciate and crave reassurance. 

The weeknight date setting should be comfy due in part that most of us work the next day.  After work meet ups are cliche and lame.  Keep happy hour friendly and with friends.  It's not a date.  Instead make early dinner reservations but not too early.  After dinner; move on and go home.  Keep your date cute and the dater at bay.  Text, email and phone rules apply here. 

The text rule:  insure your date is home safe and sound.  That's it.  You have communicated enough.  Go to bed. 

The phone rules: keep phone out of sight and totally out of mind during the date.  You aren't that busy.  Also, if your date calls to wish you good night.  Answer, thank them and go to bed.  You did good.  

The email rule:  Never email a date until they are your partner and you are no longer dating them.  It's totally unwarranted and non negotiable.  

Secondly, the weekend date.  Time is of no worry.  Make it a late dinner.  Meet for drinks first and set the tone before somewhere else.  I'm a firm believer in dinner dates as we all enjoy sharing a meal and conversation.  This setting will also allow many ice breakers during the evening to set the tone.  Pick a spot that is warm and elegant but also very busy.  You can think romance with a bustle.  Noise and action will relieve pressure and also build comfort and poise.  

When dinner is over you have the time to take your date anywhere.  Here in New York I love to walk to a dope spot and converse more while on the way.  After dinner drinks are followed by walking your date home.  End the date with a conclusion and if you feel comfortable set up the next date.  

Turn phone off, Bustling Romance, Elegance, Conclusion, Tone Setter, Cute and Comfy.  

Cheers,

AT.